Listen while you talk.
The purpose of talking is to convey a thought, emotion or idea. A correspondence of sorts. A message. To ensure that the message is properly transmitted and to incite the desired effect, you have to consider who you are communicating with.
You would not ask someone for directions in a language you know that person does not understand. The effort would be wasted. An emotional outcry – presumably more critical than asking for directions – should be all the more mindful of it’s recipient in order to help resolve the initial matter that warranted crying out.
One should strive to understand the point of origin of a message as well as the destination. Perceive your auditor while you speak.